As a parent, it’s tough when you feel like your child is struggling, especially when they’re only 3 or 4 years old. I’ve had so many conversations with parents lately who are frustrated or worried because their kids are getting into trouble at school for things they just aren’t developmentally ready for. It’s completely normal to wonder, “What’s wrong with my child? Why can’t they seem to keep up with what’s being asked of them?”
But here’s the truth I want to share with you: nothing is wrong with your child. In fact, they’re exactly where they’re supposed to be, learning and growing at their own pace.
One of the most common concerns I hear is about sharing. Parents often feel pressure—either from schools or from themselves—that their kids should already know how to share by the age of 2 or 3. But in reality, most kids don’t fully understand how to share until they’re closer to 5 or 6 years old. Yes, they might start forming their first friendships around 3, but learning to share doesn’t happen overnight. It’s part of a bigger process of learning empathy, understanding ownership, and building social skills.
When children are pushed to share before they’re ready, it can slowcan slow down the development of these important skills. They might feel anxious or resentful, which can lead to more problems down the road. What they really need is the space to feel secure in their own things and the opportunity to choose to share when they’re ready. That’s when real generosity develops—because they’re sharing from a place of confidence, not pressure.
At American Family Martial Arts, we get it. We know your child’s growth isn’t just about physical development; it’s about their whole self—intellectually, emotionally, and socially. That’s why our classes are designed to meet your child where they are right now, whether they’re still learning to take turns or just starting to understand the idea of sharing. We create a space where they can thrive at their own pace, building not just physical skills, but also learning how to navigate social situations, grow their confidence, and work with others.
So if you’ve ever found yourself frustrated or worried because your child isn’t quite meeting certain expectations, I want to tell you something: it’s okay. They’re learning in their own time. Every child is different, and that’s a good thing! We’re here to help your child become the best version of themselves—not by rushing them, but by nurturing their development and giving them the tools they need to grow.
I know how hard it can be to feel like your child is behind or struggling. But I also know, from years of working with children, that the journey is what matters most. Your child is learning, growing, and discovering who they are every single day. And I’m so proud to be part of that process with you.
At American Family Martial Arts, we’re more than just a martial arts school—we’re a community here to support both you and your child. Whether it’s learning how to share, how to work together, or how to build confidence, we’re here for every step of the journey. Together, we’ll help your child grow into a strong, kind, and confident individual.
So the next time you’re wondering why your child isn’t ready to share just yet, remember: it’s not a race. Your child is growing beautifully, and we’re here to help them every step of the way.
And here’s the best part: We’d love for you and your child to experience it firsthand. We’re currently offering free classes at American Family Martial Arts, so you can see how we nurture not only physical skills but also the life lessons that matter most—like patience, teamwork, and yes, sharing when the time is right. Come join us and let’s grow together!